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or any woman, the need to submit, to surrender, to place all your trust and faith in another is a natural and useful instinct—despite assumptions to the contrary by the prevailing culture. Women are persistently urged to believe that submission equates to subservience, instead of simply describing a role in a relationship. The fact that during the course of human history most relationships have been defined by the dynamic of submission and dominance is lost on those who live unhappy lives of marital stress and personal dissatisfaction and can’t figure out why.
But human nature is constant and once discovered and acknowledged, the instinct to submit sexually and emotionally is breathtaking, surprising, overwhelming, often obscuring all other considerations. A woman who feels a need to surrender, but who lacks balance and information, can easily become self-destructive and destructive to those around her—even those who represent her best chance for long-term happiness, who unfortunately may see her desires as bizarre, perverse. Trying to travel that path without support and guidance is extremely difficult.
A woman’s journey to discover the truth of her own desires is not something that should be undertaken without careful consideration. Although her greatest fear will always be the fear of her own feelings, a woman can find comfort, peace and balance through the embrace of careful reflection, watchfulness, study and an embrace of personal disciplines, especially when those are informed by helpful sexual, intellectual and spiritual resources.
Those resources should be more widely available than they are. For some, a partner with his own dominant instincts is obviously the appropriate mentor. For others, submission is best understood in a non-sexual, spiritual context only. For yet others, submission is a result of logical, intellectual pursuit. Our own popular, often-updated text resources page is a useful starting place for many.
We very much hope this website will be helpful to thoughtful women researching their own deeply-felt instincts. Perhaps that’s why you’re here. After all, that’s what originally brought those of us who built and monitor this site together, too. We came seeking information—and some of us stayed to help others. Hence, this site.
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othing in these pages should be considered an offer of any kind. The Project is not recruiting additional members for any of the processes of formation we provide and spaces in the Project’s online community are scarce. The women who built this site and those who now maintain and monitor it assume you are here for information only. Many of us came here because our behavior was self-destructive or because we lacked sufficient control, or because we felt we needed to know more about our own submissive instincts. In our community, we treat each other as sisters in submission. The contents of this site reflect that view. There are very many other web resources available, too, each with their own focus. Many are worthwhile; others deserve to be approached with great caution. Our intention here is to simply add to the information already available online.
This page provides an introduction and overview of certain Project activities. The organization of information here falls into several categories. The following hyperlinks may be of help to inquirers:
§ The design of the Project’s site.
§ What to consider before contacting us.
§ How to engage in the Project’s activities and work.
A note on the structure of this website: The public areas of the site are easily navigated by using the links at the bottom of each page. Many more pages (especially those dealing with disciplines and resources) are not linked, however, and are made available to those who require access to them on an as-needed basis or as resources ancillary to a related community discussion. This reflects our belief that understanding cannot precede experience, that anticipated outcomes are not helpful, and that submission is best understood in the participatory environment of a supportive community as well as in our own personal lives—to whatever extent possible. This site is therefore not intended to serve as a general introduction to the topic of feminine submission. At any point, you may simply click the “contact” link below and ask for additional help or information. Your complete privacy is absolutely assured. However, if you write to us, please include enough information about your background and present circumstances to allow for a useful reply.
While many areas of this site are for participants only, feel free to browse those portions of the site available to visitors. Feel free to visit our online community (adult women only, please) where participants and inquirers can meet and share insights and experiences. The online community is perhaps the best place to learn more about us and our project and to meet women who have a wide range of experiences, from participants who have been with the project for years to those who are just beginning their journey. We stress privacy, always. For more information on our support community and email services, visit the community resources page.
If you want more information on the project, pay particular attention to the extensive FAQ page and the information in the section dealing with instruction. These sections contain general explanations of the methods and aims of this project, along with comments from women who have participated here over the years. While those pages were originally addressed to new participants of this project, they are presented in the public areas of this website because they may have relevance to your own efforts. Our project does not scale particularly well, and most instructional aspects of the program are now handled on a very limited basis by experienced sisters who provide guidance and support to others by serving as monitors for those who need discipline and accountability and who have undertaken to absorb the information on these public pages.
We are also happy to answer any questions you may have. We hope we can be useful to you in your own search for peace and happiness.
What to consider before contacting us. The purpose of this website is to provide information about The Submissive Wife Project, not to recruit participants. Please note the following:
§ We are a small community without resources sufficient to accommodate large numbers of members.
§ We do not permit casual participation at all.
§ We have no institutional, denominational or professional affiliations.
§ The Project does not pretend to provide competent, professional therapy or counseling of any kind.
§ We strongly urge you to find ways of exploring submission with your partner alone, if possible.
§ Please review this statement to view our other disclaimers.
For women who feel they may benefit from some aspect of personal formation, we do suggest some approaches to instruction based on the support afforded by the sisters of our community. For information on this community service, click here.
For those who do participate here at any level, this experience is intrusive and intimate. It is certainly not for every woman. It is best suited for women who sense a loss of control because of a growing desire to be submissive and who as a consequence may find themselves engaging in destructive behavior.
Understanding submission lends itself very well to a mentored process. But for sexual submission, the web is a very toxic environment in which to try to find that kind of guidance. While good information is available online, we often receive correspondence from women whose lives have been seriously harmed by unwise “training”. Please be careful.
We suggest that depending on your interest you may find someone interested in helping you closer than you think, especially if your interest is more narrowly focused on the intellectual or spiritual aspects of submission. Your husband, a clergyman or other trusted friend might be willing to help you explore the more academic, theoretical aspects of surrender. Feel free to use our text resource page as a starting point for your own journey or join the discussions in our online community. If we can help along the way, we will.
Three simple steps toward Project engagement:
3.Visit the site’s FAQ section. Click here.
2. Read the summary pages in the instruction section and follow the links to the formation pages. Click here.
1. Register to join the community’s discussion areas. (Adult women only please; all registrants are subject to a verification process) Click here.
PRIVACY POLICY: We do not collect any personal information whatsoever. We do not make any information available to others. We do not send unsolicited email to anyone. We do not permit contact with community members by those who are not community members. Any supplied email addresses are used to respond to email enquiries only and are not retained for any other purpose. This site uses cookies to facilitate visitor sessions only and no personally identifying information is ever acquired or retained or used in any way. If you are concerned about your visit to this site, please clear your browser’s history. In Internet Explorer, this is done by clicking the browser’s tools menu, then the internet options menu. Additional information is found here in a public posting to a community discussion area.
A note on site coding: This site is intended to be viewed using Internet Explorer 5.0 (or higher) only. The use of other browsers is not supported and important information will be lost to those using Foxfire, Opera, Safari and other browsers. We regret our inability to recode this site for other browsers. IE may be downloaded free from http://www.microsoft.com.
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